Hmmmm. Ok. Maybe there's something on his page he doesn't want me to see. Fine.
So, I sent a message and heard nothing. Then I sent an email to his regular email address and got this reply:
"We have nothing in common. You are a conservative catholic,
and I am an anarchist agnostic. And I'm not interested in Charleston
btw, I am separated from XXXXXXX.
Please leave me alone.
Not once in the over 20 years we've known each other have we discussed politics or religion. These were merely facts he knew about me.
I think at some point, about 10 years ago, we were on the phone and I said something along the lines of "Who would ever have thought this punk rock girl would grow up to be a Conservative Catholic Mom who drives a mini-van and likes to knit? Even though I'm still a rebel inside."
We both laughed about it and that was that.
Now, when we first met, I was 19 and he was 22. We dated for a couple of years and then had a somewhat amicable split, but since we ran around with the same people, we remained friends. Even after he moved to a different state, we kept in touch. Pre-internet days, we would send letters. Then, we would email or talk by phone.
Also, he and the Evil Twin knew each other before I had met either of them, so they were friends.
He received his masters degree in Filmmaking, so when the Evil Twin and I got married, we hired him to do the video.
He ended up getting married about 5 years ago - we had met his wife and really liked her - I sent a very nice wedding gift.
After that, I tried to be mindful of how I might be portrayed (as the ex) or whatever, but I think she knew I was no threat. She and I spoke on the phone several times. The conversations were always nice and the "Hey, how's everyone doing?" type.
When my (I guess now ex) friend and I spoke or emailed, it was always the same sort of general chit chat. How's it going? etc.
The last time I had emailed him was in March of this year. I was asking about a photography website he had and I was trying to find it again (I lost all my bookmarks when my old laptop broke and I had to get a new one).
This was the reply, 6 months ago:
"Everything's good here, though this winter wasn't without its stresses and trials. Looking forward to Spring and the good riding weather it brings with
Hope all's well your way,"
Very different tone in the messages. So, I have to think there is more behind this than our political and religious differences. It was never an issue during our friendship - ever. And furthermore, he knew these two things about me a long time ago. You'd think if it pissed him off, he would have cut me loose long before now.
It's just really hurt my feelings and I'm still left wondering WTF?
Besides, anyone over the age of 20 who believes that "Anarchy" is an appropriate political stance gets marked as "bat shit crazy" in my book.
He's not worth my time.