I'll be able to attend to my housework duties at least part time. I plan on going back to my super organized way of life that I haven't had since after my parents passed away and before Sissy was born.
There has been a 6 year gap in "normal" around here and I'm ready to move on.
We had some annoying friends who felt like I should have a job outside the home. They had assorted "au pairs" to tend to their children, even though the husband could have stayed home with those children. Every time we chatted with them, the husband would ask, "When are you going back to work?" Hello? I do work. I don't get paid.
But, I gave birth to these two children and they are my responsibility. My mom was a stay at home mom my entire life and I plan on following in her footsteps.
I know many families can't afford to have one parent at home and certainly, a single parent can't stay at home. I get that. Even WE struggle with bills, etc. But, I do part time work from home when it comes my way. And, it generally comes my way when we need it most, so it's all good. :-)
Sorry for the tangent...Who knows where it came from? That's how my feeble brain works sometimes. :-)
The "going back to work" question from that dullard bothers ya, doesn't it? Fuck It. Cheers ETW!!
ReplyDeleteI've always thought that, whatever a parent would prefer to do, that's what the parent should do.
ReplyDeleteFortunately, you & your hubby are able to make things work with you staying at home, and therefore, since you'd rather stay at home, you should stay at home. My wife wanted to stay at home, at least until the kids are school-aged, and what's what we're doing. Fuck anybody who implies that you "should" be getting a regular paycheck.
You only get so many years to be close to your kids. And I say everyone should do whatever makes them a better parent. I had times when I couldn't be a good stay at home mom. I needed to work. I needed some space. But now I find I'm in a much better place and can really spend and enjoy time with my kids. So, even though I almost have my master's degree, I am a mom full time and will be a baker part time. And that's what works right now.
ReplyDeleteI'm right there with you. I cannot wait for school to start..I'm counting the days! 8/18 won't get here soon enough!
ReplyDeleteMy reasoning is different though..shelling out an additional $400 a month for a full time babysitter for Bear is killing us financially, that's ontop of the $490 a month we pay for Bug to go to preshcool/daycare...I just need the finacial break and SOON!
Besides that, I think kids loose so much of what they were taught the previous year...I would be all for a 12 month school program like CA has!
Im looking forward for things to get back to "normal" in fall too...
ReplyDeleteI am dreading the start back of the school year! I hate being on such a strict schedule especially since Lady H's school starts earlier than I have to be at work!
ReplyDeleteI think it's wonderful when women that want to stay home and they can afford to. I've never thought much about staying home as I've never had the opportunity. I don't know if I'd like it or not!
I've been a stay at home Mom. I've been a working Mom with a husband. I'm now a full-time working single parent which of the three is the hardest I've ever done, that being said I'm a better parent now that I'm not with them full-time.
ReplyDeleteThe second hardest was being a stay at home Mom. Pardon my language, but a giant fuck you and the horse you rode in on cowboy, to anyone who's has never been a stay at home parent. I dare some of these nimrods to do it, they wouldn't make it a day!
Stay home with your kids as long as you want. You're giving them an amazing gift and a lifetime of wonderful memories.
oops! I should say "to anyone who's never been a stay at home parent" and makes disparaging comments about returning to "work". sorry!
ReplyDeleteMy Mom was a stay at home mom too, and I cherished it! I am glad that you are able to do it, am sure that you are ready for the heathens to go to school, and hope when the day comes (if it ever does)I will be able to stay at home too!
ReplyDeletelove how people assume just because you don't have a "Job" that you don't "Work". LOL.... Glad you were able to work out being a Stay at Home Mom because it is a great thing to be able to do.
ReplyDeleteI think kids thrive much better with a parent at home. I know I turned out better for it.
ReplyDeleteits even worse when its an "only child"... sometimes my son looks so bored it breaks my heart....
ReplyDeleteWhy do people think its okay to judge. Fuck em
ReplyDelete