tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post4204916588269278355..comments2023-07-30T08:22:00.042-04:00Comments on The Glamorous Life of a Hausfrau: More Thought DumpingForest Bard's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09108970081943271956noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-30227179163948882762009-03-20T12:50:00.000-04:002009-03-20T12:50:00.000-04:00Gotta do this sometimes. I'm working on my gui...Gotta do this sometimes. I'm working on my guilt for kicking people out of my life. but youre right if you werent related then you wouldnt be friends. It's hard but getting easier.Loni's Worldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10052327148716888410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-6567761337274072102009-03-20T11:02:00.000-04:002009-03-20T11:02:00.000-04:00I am so sorry to hear that, ETW. What a tool. If I...I am so sorry to hear that, ETW. What a tool. If I were there I would give you a hug.Alexhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14802482421104496895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-19503914548856193932009-03-20T06:52:00.000-04:002009-03-20T06:52:00.000-04:00whew... what a story. I am so sorry to hear that ...whew... what a story. I am so sorry to hear that you guys aren't closer and that you couldn't lean on him when your parents died. I have a similar situation with family members and with no malice, I have decided my contact with them will be extremely limited. I can only take so much of their insanity before I break so I need to keep my distance. good luck to you! hugs!LoveLladrohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13978797008813692988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-27456960713025781082009-03-20T03:56:00.000-04:002009-03-20T03:56:00.000-04:00Clearly you don't need that kind of crap in yo...Clearly you don't need that kind of crap in your life. Not good for you or the ET and kids. You are well rid of him. Be of good cheer for your family is the one you've built. I too lost both my folks within 2 years. You have moved on and done so splendidly. Feel free to dump your thoughts on us here in blogtown anytime. It's probably as good a function as we can serve, so use us.<br>Take care,<br>FMDFu Manchu Dadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02536965018763679899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-84285598353260227302009-03-20T01:49:00.000-04:002009-03-20T01:49:00.000-04:00Do what is right for you...it sounds like you have...Do what is right for you...it sounds like you have.<br>Love to YouVevay Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14648634143290285002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-73709657692810584892009-03-20T00:02:00.000-04:002009-03-20T00:02:00.000-04:00Every tear you wiped, every toilet you cleaned, ev...Every tear you wiped, every toilet you cleaned, every day of pain you had to endure was for your parents, not your brother. What riches he has thrown away because of his selfishness. May he one day realize the things he missed. May he have a daughter like you, and not like the son that he was to his own parents. <br><br>That said, my hope is that as you close the door on your brother, you don't lock it. Don't let his toxicity leach into your life, but if you can, leave a tiny opening in the door for the sake of your Mama and Daddy. May they become an instrument in his life so that he may realize the blessings he has thrown away because of his lack of character. Not for him, but for them. And maybe for yourself.<br><br>This is my hope and prayer for you. Hang in there hon!<br><br>>>>HUGZ<<<<K(arla)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-33965016566751059182009-03-19T23:52:00.000-04:002009-03-19T23:52:00.000-04:00I was searching around on blogger and came across ...I was searching around on blogger and came across this post. I wish you the best in this situation and hope that you get back to leading a happy life. I can identify with having family issues regarding the death of a loved one and with having a sister in law you don't get along with. <br><br>My sister in law is about as worthless as can be. I call her "Satan" and only put up with her because she married my brother who is about the nicest person on earth. My sister in law is "Bitchy", lazy and has no ambition other than for my brother to graduate college and take care of her.<br><br>You took the high road, be proud of yourself! But I can say from experience that it may be too early to write your brother off for good, he maybe influenced by an evil wife; mine is! Best of luck to you either way!<br><br>Sorry about "Anonymous post" but I am just lurking around and checking this blogging thing out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-31877873240407828012009-03-19T22:39:00.000-04:002009-03-19T22:39:00.000-04:00WOW!! You are a popular girl. Holy crap, there'...WOW!! You are a popular girl. Holy crap, there's so many comments, I don't even have time to read them all...<br>Anyway, good for you. I had to do the same a few months ago except it was my brother's wife and children.<br>Just because they're family doesn't make them goos people, blood or not. Either way, life is too short to let poeople make you feel bad. Their loss, believe me. *Hugs*MsPulphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06121530226112122866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-53975626556624893762009-03-19T22:15:00.000-04:002009-03-19T22:15:00.000-04:00I read early in the day (before the bajillion comm...I read early in the day (before the bajillion comments) but didn't have a chance to post at work.<br><br>Family is a weird thing. But you only have one brother. He fucked up, bigtime and let you down and you have every right to write him off. Even permanently.<br><br>I also believe people can and do change, sometimes, eventually.<br><br>So maybe at this point cutting him out is the right thing to do. But maybe in the future, you should have open ears if he tries to contact you again.<br><br>I don't think it matters biological or adopted. Nurture over Nature I believe. He was raised as your brother and should be the same as blood. And sometimes our blood relatives are assholes. We can't all be awesome. Just keep an open mind...it will guide you in the future.vinomomhttp://vinomom.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-54906316623367504922009-03-19T21:51:00.000-04:002009-03-19T21:51:00.000-04:00That is insane. I am sorry you went through that....That is insane. I am sorry you went through that. You consider suing??Karenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14978375225313974459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-5985373199000671922009-03-19T19:32:00.000-04:002009-03-19T19:32:00.000-04:00I'm sorry.I'm happy for you, but I'm s...I'm sorry.<br><br>I'm happy for you, but I'm sorry.rennratthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08258514296905380163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-39565289627342219022009-03-19T17:33:00.000-04:002009-03-19T17:33:00.000-04:00Oh, ETW. I feel so bad for you *hugs*But, cutting ...Oh, ETW. I feel so bad for you *hugs*<br><br>But, cutting out people like that will be better for you and your family in the long run, once the hurt and sting of all the douchbaggery on their parts has faded. <br><br>I went through a similar thing once, and I can tell you it is much less stressful knowing you don't HAVE to let them near you if you don't want.leighmohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10207676767139389872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-63687674159158301532009-03-19T17:10:00.000-04:002009-03-19T17:10:00.000-04:00You did all you could...........and more! You are ...You did all you could...........and more! <br><br>You are so much on a higher level than your brother and his bitch wife and I'm glad you made the choice you did!Efenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759616319072702523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-45125902059664873602009-03-19T16:33:00.000-04:002009-03-19T16:33:00.000-04:00Late again with my comments! I agree.... it's ...Late again with my comments! I agree.... it's time to move on. Sometimes, there are people you just can't get along with even if it's family. Hugs to you honey. It will get better. ((((hugs))))Jenny Fabuloushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04377264583933841037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-34686816276493073792009-03-19T15:25:00.000-04:002009-03-19T15:25:00.000-04:00in a way I'm kinda jealous .... but we can'...in a way I'm kinda jealous .... but we can't choose our family ....Margarethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14330213570833075363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-78692463677144900852009-03-19T14:38:00.000-04:002009-03-19T14:38:00.000-04:00I have been in the same place. My brother is an a...I have been in the same place. My brother is an ass and stupid to boot. He was the caregiver for my mom at his insistence, moved in with her, fired the day care person that was supposed to be with my mom while he worked, stole money from her banking accounts and had the walnuts to say to me "You don't understand what it's like to lose your mom and dad" and then proceeded to try and get the money left to my kids by having them "invest" in some BS scam he had cooked up. i consider myself an only child. he is erased from my life.rosemaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03300107116527320425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-21362536350620918622009-03-19T14:36:00.000-04:002009-03-19T14:36:00.000-04:00Wow, this topic hits a nerve with me. I totally un...Wow, this topic hits a nerve with me. I totally understand where you are coming from, and I feel that you made the best decision.<br><br>Sometimes cutting someone loose is the only way. Who would benefit from a toxic and tense relationship like that? Certainly not you. It is very hard, but I think necessary.*mary*http://www.blogger.com/profile/18441748358984280917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-14069296736897034942009-03-19T14:28:00.000-04:002009-03-19T14:28:00.000-04:00Wow! That's rough. But isn't it a great ...Wow! That's rough. But isn't it a great feeling when you can cut a toxic relationship loose and not feel trapped by it anymore? It's sad, but it's also such a relief when you get there.rebeccahttp://www.rebeccaburch.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-30364832072527822182009-03-19T14:13:00.000-04:002009-03-19T14:13:00.000-04:00I know this has been a long time coming for you.. ...I know this has been a long time coming for you.. I"m getting to a similar place with my brother & his WIFE in that we certainly would not associate if it wasn't for the connection of family!<br><br>Hugs to you! I hope you've found the peace you needed in this situation.Kathryn @ Expectant Heartshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08629955139973507828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-74941692518670784892009-03-19T12:48:00.000-04:002009-03-19T12:48:00.000-04:00I am overwhelmed by the comments today. And I appr...I am overwhelmed by the comments today. And I appreciate them all. There are some very wise words here and I will take them into consideration, but I'm afraid the bridge is already burnt. After many episodes of forgiving and moving forward, I couldn't find it in me for one more chance. Anyway, thanks to all of you!Evil Twin's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05947080160500549248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-48716345063042861072009-03-19T12:43:00.000-04:002009-03-19T12:43:00.000-04:00(hug)(hug)tiffhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01351692108818152561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-6954194718475260472009-03-19T12:36:00.000-04:002009-03-19T12:36:00.000-04:00You know that I, of all people, understand your si...You know that I, of all people, understand your situation, since it is nearly the same as mine. I grew up as an only child.<br><br>After I met my birth mom, I met her two adopted children; a girl who is now somewhat disabled, but nice and a boy who is a shit and was loser from day one. I am SO glad that I was never thrown into contact with any of them as I was growing up. I would not choose to associate with the two kids under any circumstances, and I'm so glad I didn't have to. I will be polite to them, but that is all.<br><br>I know how that must hurt - or make you enraged - as it would me. Good riddance to bad rubbish. It happens in so many families, even with birth siblings, so don't feel bad.kenjuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07342414519714356343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-80728163265630761032009-03-19T12:07:00.000-04:002009-03-19T12:07:00.000-04:00Oh, sweetie... I cannot imagine how painful that m...Oh, sweetie... I cannot imagine how painful that must be. I have no personal experiences on this subject but Christine does make a good point. You only have 1 brother, right. Even if he is douche. But please do what is best for you.<br><br>Lots of love headed your way!Bitchy McBitchersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03627205006501301967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-14728282356419458572009-03-19T11:36:00.000-04:002009-03-19T11:36:00.000-04:00I COULD just click off and check out the next blog...I COULD just click off and check out the next blog on my daily reads. But that would take entirely too much self control.<br><br>First, your brother sucks. He wasn't around when he should have been, he is selfish and was thrilled that you were handling this stuff so he didn't have to deal with it. I know this because I know "him" or at least 50 exactly like him.<br><br>On the other hand...he is big part of your past. Face it, he was eye witness to things that no one else will ever know about. He tried to make ammends which means that he does care what you think.<br><br>Maybe you feel better about making this permanent statement but I really don't think it is necessary. Talk to him, don't talk to him..send a card at Christmas or maybe send one in a year or two... These things aren't going to hurt either one of you. You need to let the anger go. It doesn't really sounds like he is an evil person...just a self centered jerk but he is your brother and I really don't think you should commit to totally cutting him out of your life forever. <br><br>You never know how you'll feel three, five or even ten years from now.<br><br>But then again, what the hell do I know?Christinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12111075448510276679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8302027825736277868.post-69292885439294597652009-03-19T11:28:00.000-04:002009-03-19T11:28:00.000-04:00You'd think that illness or death in the famil...You'd think that illness or death in the family would draw the survivors close but that's not often the case.<br>Too often what shows through is lazy hearts and greedy minds on one side and loving hearts and caring minds on the other. Glad that you're able to identify the former in your brother, and to provide the latter for your parents.<br>Your parents were lucky to have you.<br>Rpowdergirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03703233313854600531noreply@blogger.com